Go for It!

I was speaking to a friend just a few minutes ago whom I love because we often think alike and don’t judge. And the conversation struck a chord because we were basically talking about taking a risk, to get to the life she ideally wants.

Without getting into it, she was basically debating whether to stay in the safe zone, or go for a semi- crazy adventure, which could not only be fun, but also could lead her to turn her passion into a career, in a way she had never thought of on her own.

We weighed the pros and cons together, but quickly realized that the cons were so weak that it was all a mindset problem, rather than a true negative. It was just fear. The worst case scenario was still nothing at all. And in fact, it often is the case for most of us.

Think of a similar situation for yourself… What is it that would make you truly happy? What would give your life purpose? Or what would make you excited to wake up on Monday morning? (Mind you, I am typing this at 10:14pm on a Sunday) Have you figured it out?

If you think your idea sounds crazy, don’t. Because mine is probably more unrealistic than yours. As you know, for me, I have decided that it would be to become a full time writer and talk show host/ motivational speaker.

Now let’s consider the worst case scenario for myself. What am I doing about it? I am only working on my blog here, my podcast via itunes and sound cloud , and my book, all at the same time. Although it takes a while to work on them, what is the worst possible situation?

  • That I finish my book and not find an agent or publisher willing to give it a go? Then I could self publish.
  • What if no one wants to listen to my funky podcast? Well it’s not like I have the whole city listening as it is, and the true purpose is to practice my “public” speaking if you will, and improve, and I am already learning how to improve a little more each time.
  • And what if this little blog doesn’t get further than just random thoughts, coming from frantic writing, on my laptop, in my room? The purpose of the blog is to express myself, it’s my art, and I already feel the release I need from typing this up, before even clicking “publish”.

So what have I got to lose? Nothing.

Now back to you, what have you got to lose by trying? Nothing serious. What have you got to lose by not trying? Everything.

I often hear that many people’s biggest fear is to not live to their full potential. It is mine as well. But what is that said potential? Only we get to decide what that is. You define that full potential, yet you are the same person limiting yourself to not achieving those objectives you set for yourself.

Yes we may have many limitations: Work, school, finance, time, health, and the list goes on. But if you have set an objective for yourself, you are the only one limiting yourself.

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What can you do? So many things.

  1. Believe it. If you don’t find this goal possible, then who will? Fake it until you make it.
  2. Use an agenda, dissect the big goal into monthly, weekly, and daily tasks to make it less intimidating.
  3. Think of each project as a trial and error. You will fail, but when you do, think of the failure as a lesson, meaning that “ah, this is not the right way to get to this goal, so let me find another method”, or like a GPS, “this is not the right route to get to the airport, let me turn around”. You will get lost,  but you wouldn’t miss your flight because you took the wrong turn, would you? Try a different approach, and don’t stop looking for your yellow brick road.

Maybe I stress these things to encourage myself as well. Of course, I don’t have all of the answers because I am struggling to get to my full potential just like you. I imagine that even Oprah and Tony Robbins motivate themselves to get to where they want continuously.

But that’s what this life is all about, overcoming small,medium, and large challenges, give and take, and celebrating it all along the way.

Therefore, whatever it is that will make you happy, go for it!


A Helping Hand

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When I first started college, I was referred to an alum from my area of study as a mentor, to guide me through the tough years of college life. And she was beyond sweet, such as by sending me fruit baskets during finals. Consequently, I was very thankful for her, especially when I needed perspective.

And with time, I learned to pick my own mentors, especially when I started my career. I usually would choose someone in middle or senior management, or someone who I looked up to. But more often than not, that person would not be in my age bracket, nor be as junior in their career as I was.

But why can we not reach out to fellow young professionals for mentorship, at our place of work?

I am a mentor. You are a mentor. We are all mentors to each other.

This all came to mind when this week, I met with a colleague of mine, where we have very little age difference.

She was sharing her struggles in the workplace, such as managing expectations of your boss, dealing with co-workers who block you, as well as work-life balance.

And it dawned on me, that although I am not necessarily “senior” to her in terms of hiearchy, I have experienced many of the same challenges. It was so refreshing to discuss similar issues and offer suggestions, which I hope were helpful to her. And even though it was her struggle, I shared in her pain because I could identify with it. And by just discussing it out loud, it eased both of our pains. It made us feel less alone in these challenges at work, as she confirmed.

However, it’s rare that young professionals lend a helping hand from a motivational perspective. Of course we often help each other with mundane tasks, or worse, we opt for jealousy and competition for some make belief promotion.

But I don’t often see young professionals forming an alliance, to discuss struggles, and offer tangible solutions to help.

I am not talking about gossiping, or shit talking about your coworkers to each other. We all do that.

Instead, why can we not be each other’s mentors as co-workers? Why can’t the girl who is a star in finance, give some pointers to the girl having a rough week in sales? Why can’t the strong performers across disciplines align?

Imagine if all the young professionals, who are top performers in a company, man or woman, created some sort of alliance, which was not forced by HR or their supervisors? Think of it as a business fraternity. Remember those in college?

Why can’t we have each other’s backs? It’s not a me versus him or her.

Why can’t we vet each other on how to best manage our directors and VPs, so that we meet their expectations? It’s a coalition of strong professionals, to better ourselves, and to also make each other look even better in the workplace.

Why is your win, not also a win for me? It danm sure should be.

Come to think of it, I legit want to start this “fraternity” at my current job. And you should too because it’s a win-win.

We need to live life OUR way, and although our approaches tend to be unconventional as young professionals, we have so much to bring to the table.

We should collaborate by mentoring each other, and together be better, braver, bolder.